Mid-argument, how often have your heard someone say:
OMG! You’re right!
The way you raised your voice convinced me.
When you called me a selfish jerk, I knew that I was.
When you belittled my effort, I understood my weakness.
Your searing judgement of my opinions means a lot to me.
You get me. I feel safe.
Let’s work together.
Ever? Of course not.
When we disagree, we often unleash anger and harsh judgement without regard to outcomes and relationships that are important to us. Our impact on others sits squarely in a blind spot.
A mindful approach can help: Breathe. Smile. Park the anger. And unpack the empathy.